My father’s last words of profound wisdom

On this father’s day, I would like to commemorate my father by sharing his profound words wisdom with you, in hopes that you will take charge of your health so you can live long and up to your potential. I urge you to make a conscious effort to take good care of yourself while you are taking care of others. It is not selfish but self worth. You may just live longer and with quality of life.

Here is what my father said to me on his deathbed. “Lynn, I am a 58 years old man and I am going to die with the music in my box. All my wisdoms are going inside my casket, and I am going to die with my own worse enemy. If you understand my wisdom, I hope that some day when you die, I hope you will die with your own best friend. Here is how.

In your lifetime, you will be so hypnotized by the world just like me, either by your lover, by your children, by your job, a situation, or a behavior (eating too much, drinking too much, and for me it is shopping too much) or a thing. Watch out! Don’t let those things and those people hypnotize you to the point where you don’t even know your mind or your body anymore. Make sure you check in with yourself; how you feel according to what you ate, how you slept, or what has been happening in your life. Only you will know.

You will hear yourself reminding you that you need to do something, but you WILL get distracted. Just remember to give yourself ten times of distractions and really DO IT! You will be honoring your soul. If you hear yourself say, “I know really need to do it,” but you will make all kinds of excuses like, “I don’t have time, I don’t have the money, my job is too demanding or my kids need me”. If you say: “Tomorrow, tomorrow, but tomorrow does not come until today. So he said, “today is yesterday’s tomorrow.” He points to his head and said, “This works good” and pointed to his body, “but this doesn’t work anymore so perhaps another life time.”

Your body is a vehicle that hosts your soul and takes it to another dimension which tomorrow, the next day and the next day. Take good care of it so you will continue to your soul expression on earth. May these words of wisdom inspire you to take actions to follow a healthy lifestyle. Eat well. Move daily, hydrate often, sleep well, love your body and repeat this routine for life. You will be glad you did. Please share this story to anyone who you think will benefit from this blog. Thank you. Lynn

 

Are you stress? You may be an enabler!

 

I took care of a patient who came in complaining she is stress because she is not sleeping well. When I asked her what is making her stress. She said she is working 2 jobs to make ends meet. I commented that she must have a lot of bills to pay. She replied, “I am not only paying for myself but I am supporting my daughter and her husband who recently moved in with me and they are both unemployed.” I asked how old is her daughter. She said,“27 and the son-in-law is 30 years old!” I was surprised and said “Really? How long are you planning on doing this?” She replied, “I don’t know but I am tired.” I quickly advised her to give her daughter and Son-in-law a date to find jobs and move out. I reinforced that although she thinks she is trying to help all the while being an enabler for them to take advantage of her.

Setting healthy boundaries without feeling guilty is something she needs to practice for stress management. I encourage her to be firm with this matter or else she will continue to let them take advantage of her. She agreed and will start practicing healthy boundaries.

If you are a mom or a care provider, I hope this story will shed some light and help you set limits and healthy boundaries so you won’t be leached.  It is one thing to love someone but not allowing them to take advantage of you!.  Please share this with someone who you know  is going through the same issue.  You just may help them change for the better.  Feel free to share your story below.